Friday, August 12, 2016

August 2016


My good fren in HK told me every time we met, that she no longer talks to her hubby. Basically she don't feel like it or want to either anymore. This happens after they had their dream of 2 kids. I used to tell her to try, else it's not good. She said it's too frustrating so she don't bother. Guess what, I finally get her and understand completely what she means n feels. I'm reaching a point I don't feel like talking too. Sure there are some good days but most days, he just feel more like a extra character that just gives me more grief than joy.

Since we moved back, I'm slowly falling a routine and while I'm happy to be back, many things are slowly being bottled up.

Everything he also want to have a view. Whether I buy back from hawker to eat, he also want to comment. Not that he is offering to make breakfast for me, all he says are hawker food so unhealthy, u should not eat so much. Yes uncle, easy for u to say since u can shake backside n leave home from 9am to 7pm. If I don't buy back, who cooks for me while I go market to buy meat n vege and cook baby food, your dinner, clean house do laundry, wash baby, interact with baby, help baby walk, take him out for strolls? I only have that many hours n wtf is it to u what I eat? Just because u don't like it? I'm not forcing u to eat. Still cooking your dinner so your problem is?

Every day he come home, over dinner he will complain about how unhealthy sgporean  eat. Blah blah. Here I am at night after slaving over a meal n long day, all he does is spew crap judge n judge. Somedays I don't even get to eat, lucky to stuff a pie down n this he's talking about the various choices he has n bitching. I told him it's better than HK since at least I GET to buy food home to eat. Last time in HK I had to starve coz there's no food home n too much to do at home n baby needs to sleep more. Now it's heaven here n this dude just want to keep raining on my parade.

I got irritated n ask him u don't complain abt food so much last time so wat u eat? He say sandwich. I think to myself then eat your f sandwich lah. 

So after dinner I was washing dishes n baby was playing by himself. It was 9pm. I told him to bathe baby n he went oh he hasn't bathe yet? I think to myself yah yesterday I bathe him coz I had time.  While he bathe baby I wash, wipe, vaccum kitchen n dining room n mop the floors and hang laundry n wash rugs. Then at 9.30pm he came to kitchen without a word. I was still finishing up. 

Then I rem I had to marinade meat for tmw dinner. He saw me and ask in irritated voice wat I'm doing. I replied "marinate meat" too tired to engage him. Then he went out n came in at 940pm with the f face and said with irritated face "I don't care comes 18 months I want to Put him in day care"

I don't know wat is the relevance. day care and him at night looking after baby for short while. In short he don't want to deal with his so more than half hour a day. Hejust want to play take photos n run away back to his PC. He is irritated because his jogging is delayed since I'm not done. Selfish prick. Always about him n his needs. Has he ever consider I might be tired too? No he thinks outsourcing care of his child is his fucking gift to me. Then he thinks his son is well mannered etc on his own with no efforts from me? U think u let other people care for your child u can have the way your child is now?

He is so proud his son is learning to take empty plate to kitchen to wash without prompting. Yah doesn't happen on its own. I had to train him everyday . U think all these happen with a maid or in school? 

I'm getting tired. Tired of his selfishness. Sure he isn't the worst. Some days he help with hanging clothes but that means he will just throw the dried ones on couch for me to fold n keep away. He will wash plates but forget about the floor n tables. Sure he will help bathe him and feed him milk but it all comes with a price, his nagging, his face or grumbles etc. It's almost as if the child is mine alone and its my decision alone to have a child? No. He doesnt want his lifestyle to change. So what? U bring home to bacon and that's it right?

I told him my back hurts the other day coz I had a sprain when I carried our boy. he come back late n was all upset about his fucking hand phone not connecting to his backup. Keeps yelling n I had to snap at him to shut up as I just put the boy to sleep. Instead of remembering his wife back is hurting , all he care is his phone n he rather drives back to office to try back up and never bother to ask if his wife needs a quick back rub first from pain from whole day. 
Angry? no. Disappointed? yes. Resentful yes. 

For once after so many years, a thought flash thru my head. Did I actually marry the right guy for me? Am I really having too high expectations or are some of my frens setting too high a husband standard? Is it that wrong to expect your partner to take over 1-2 hour at night from me? It's not even to relax but 1-2 he so that I can catch up on house chores. 

Before a kid, his selfishness isn't that apparent but I knew it was there n that's why I didn't really want a kid With HIM. But thinking why I should deprive myself because of him so I took the plunge. As expected, hasn't been a good day since. 

Even as I organise play dates, he just go buy lunch take some photo n then go off for his massage. Meanwhile everything else is left to me. At nite I suggested eat ramen as it was closest n easy n the kids want it n my partner said but I want vege. I just ignored him. In my head one day no vege won't die.

So many things are accumulating.
I need a break from him soon before I tear him apart.

Tuesday, May 17, 2016

Pissed off

Very frustrating to talk to my man these days. He's like stuck in his own world n don't listen to half of things I say. 

Just for example, he told me the starhub guy could not fix up the hdmi and I said oh I'm surprised as the HK cable guy could do it. My husband just said I don't know. He couldn't find any of the input channels to get hdmi.

I told him there is no separate channels. So I specifically said "ok let me share with you what I know." At the start of my conversation. 

I said 
"We use to hand input 1 for normal to. Input 2 for cable to right? So when we watch Cable we get all the hd versions." 

He looked at me and said which buttons? I said no additional
Buttons, it's the same as cable tv. Basically u don't search for additional HDMI input on your remote, u just get the hd channels on your cable." He said he don't understand n repeated which button. I told him tv remote to press input 2 and then just use cable tv remote to browse. He still don't get it n start raising his voice at me.

He keep asking which button I said no button. I said input 1 for normal to n input 2 for cable right. Then he snap at me to say why I question him about things he don't know. I have to close my eyes n hold my breath. He saw me did that n snap at me again saying why I expect him to know such things. At the back of my head I think to myself, u have that tv for 10 years n you watch cable tv for fucking 10 years and u even teach your parents to toogle between normal tv n cable n now suddenly you claim you never know and snapping at me and asking me why I close my eyes to stop myself from yelling back at you for snapping at me? Where did u leave your brains? In the end, he shouted "since u know so much then u go deal with starhub." I said "fine" he went to shower n came out in good mood. Basically not his problem anymore. 

Many more incidents to show that his brain is really shutting down n he expect me to deal with everything. When I try to explain how things work, or what service people suppose to do he doesn't seem to want to know n care. At time he just tell me "I don't want to know"

My HK cooking lady is right. Being a smart woman who knows what to do is a curse. You get taken for granted. Those wives who act stupid are the luckiest.

Some days I just find him very selfish, that only he is tired with looking after baby with my mum helping him while I'm slogging myself to half death rushing to unpack the place because he insists he wants to move in immediately or within 2 days. 

I told him it's not possible but he still want to. Even the movers said our load will take months but my husband always think it's so easy since I always unpack within a week but he don't realise it's tough since I have to coordinate with contractors to do repairs from Windows to cabinets to toilets to running around for new toilet seats. All these takes time but he will call n demand why I'm taking so long. 

So I have to rush through till my legs were practically sore and I couldn't walk by 3rd day and had acute food poisoning and then he don't have a choice and agree to switch and go to our place to "rearrange" what I unpack with the part time help I got him. Even still, he would call every other hour to ask about things so I couldn't rest either. My mum had to go out buy food so it was thankful my boy seem to know I'm unwell n he quietly play on bed with me instead of his cheeky crawly self. 

He says after 1 day yesterday he is very tired n needs to nap today. He doesn't seem to rem his wife is still not 100% well from food poisoning n sore back and still have to rush to market to buy baby food n stock up groceries n half dead walking back with 4 heavy bags. Thank god mum was here looking after my boy. The more I think I really get quite pissed off. Sure he helped but he only think about himself and never thank us but he expects me to thank him. 

I really don't want to talk to him these days. Having conversations with him is impossible.

He put our boy on bed the other day n walk out of room to ask me where is the fucking cream n of course boy fell down the bed n cried. I was dismayed n so my first question was "why didn't u put him on the floor mattress?" Because it wasn't the first time he cause his son to fall off bed. It's like don't u ever learn your mistakes?? How many times will it take for u to stop? If I remind u say I nag. If I don't u do things without thinking

Of course he flew into rage n yell at me for that question n say I always blame him. In my head it was like "that's because you always cause him to fall when I told u don't don't don't put him on a bed if your eyes are not on him"

I was too tired to fight n I just told him sorry. And he just went on n on n I got really pissed n so I snapped at him. He had the cheek n balls to ask me "oh let me see what have u done last decade." 

U fucker. U think being your wife is easy? U think I fucking sit around at home do nothing just because I clear up all the shit so well that u are not inconvenience? U fucker.

Finally I told him if he thinks he can find a fucking better wife who is the handy man, deals with every fucking household thing, raise his son, do his bills, cook n clean, then he is welcome to go find another one. I told him when I said sorry I wasn't sorry for my question but sorry that he thought I was accusing him to be his fault. 

He realised he crossed the line n shut up.
Later he said he didn't really mean what he said. I just said it wasn't a fair statement. He tried to say oh u know I'm happy for u to be housewife and take care of me...blah blah. 

Unfortunately words are something you can't take back at times n he really crossed the line and I don't think I will forget what he say this time for a while. I'm truly offended because it only shows he has taken me for granted for so long. It wasn't apparent when it was just two of us but now with his son here, he has shown a side that is not nice that is apparent to everyone including his parents but himself. 

I manage to move my whole 3000sqft apartment in 10days across countries. Now, I just need to keep calm and try not to get cheesed off.

Sunday, April 10, 2016

5 April: Moving!

After much deliberation we have finally decided to move back to Sg to save rental cost since hubby still not working. Doesn't look like he will find a job soon with all the Chinese requirements

We just got back from Australia visiting his family and as usual, his fucking sister pissed me off again. Another story another time.

One thing my mother in law noticed n came to ask me privately was "what is wrong with her son". She too thought he has become a different person, impatient, quick to point fingers, sensitive and basically not thinking clearly making a lot of time wasting decisions. I told my Mil that it has been like that for a while n I'm tolerating him for over a year now. Especially the quick to get angry part really pisses me off. A few times now I have to tell him off to let me finish my sentence. 

Since we decided to move back, again he did nothing. He said he will contact Santa Fe n guess what? Ended up with me doing everything. I told him to pack some of his personal stuff quickly as we need to make use of all times, fucking ignore me. Rather waste his time looking at non urgent things like property market in oz, download movies, surf internet n Fb, arrange lunches with frens. Do I want to slap him, of course. 

So I wrote a list of things for him to do n he still procrastinating giving invalid reasons. Told him to update address with banks n terminate gas acct, he tells me must wait till Monday. Of course I was annoyed since Monday will be busy taking baby for injection etc n grocery shopping. I ask why cant he do it today? He says must go bank. I told him why can't do online? He says don't have n must submit form. I login to update my address n told him "u can do it online". Only then he says I just saw it. Then he exclaim oh cannot! No overseas address option. I really cannot take it n told him "yes u can! I just did it!!! The option is right in front of u". 

Then he complain he's hungry n no food. No bread etc. I search the fridge n said there's chicken thigh he can eat. Then he said "but there's nothing to eat with" I was annoyed. I told him "can't u just cook rice with it? U first complain there's no food, then I found meat for u you want to pick n say nothing to eat with?" Silence. Then I added "why can't u eat your cereal?? I bought a new pack for u n there's milk n fruits." Then he went "oh yah"

See what I mean by I have to think of everything for him? It's almost like his brain has shrunk?

Even selling of furniture or talking to landlord etc, he depends on me to do it. I dunno why he cannot do it but never mind. It's faster that I do it. 





Wednesday, January 6, 2016

5 Jan 2016: The "backlog" moronic ex maid left behind

Now that bloody moronic maid is gone, been doing most things myself. Twice a week a local lady comes in to cook lunch which gives me some respite to catch up on other admin things. 

Other than that I'm actually super happy that I get the whole place back to myself! Especially my laundry room that I can wash through the night and turn on my humidifier to dry the clothes thoroughly! With the bitch in the way, i have to mess up my living room with racks and worse clothes don't dry properly since the area is too large to have effective humidifier working. Plus, when I cook, my kitchen is always in clean state. ALWAYS. Not the bloody oily piled up mess she leaves behind. Plus I have to make up for her slackness. She spend 3 hours every night dunno clean what fuck. I spend one hour and to clean areas she never wiped!!! So obvious when I see all the dirt n dust in the drawers handles grooves, bits and pieces of food under the cabinet area, and the exhaust hood. Fucker must be spacing out in that 3 hours pretending to work. The inside of the cabinet doors are filthy in the 7 months she was here. So the last few days had been me catching up on the cleaning load that she left behind. My hubby was concerned that I was cleaning so much but I told him I need to refresh my kitchen. All the chopping boards so filthy so I bought new ones. My wmf knives are wreaked n my scan pan non stick pan are goners.all these need to restock. 

Toilets. I need to rescrub them as I realise she has NEVER clean it with the toilet detergents. I bought 3 bottles and they are all there untouched. FULL. She has just been using water and cloth n got knows how often she change the cloth. No wonder I always thought my toilet don't smell fresh. She only make sure there are no mould on the tiles as I check n ask her to scrub and she can't laze on that. 

Bedsheets. Told the bitch to change bedsheets realise she never wash the mattress protector for months! Dear lord. 

So imagine all the backload I had to clear over the long weekend. Of course my hubby won't understand or know the massive cleanup involved. Sigh. 

Despite being sooo busy, yet I'm immensely happy. Now... If only my little one will give me more time to scrub the carpets....

Thursday, December 31, 2015

31 Dec: Bye you moron

During the whole Xmas period, my moronic maid is back to her stupid useless attitude self. Not sure what is wrong with her, she just got this "fucking don't ask me do anything" aura. 

We think she's upset coz we ask a local lady to come in cook twice a week and she prob find it insulting. But the problem
Is she can't cope though it's because she's lousy n disorganised and not because she has a lot to do.

So ever since our local lady came, she has been working even slower n careless despite my husband explain to her than we get someone else to come in on her grocery days so that she has more time to do clean up. Instead of being appreciative, she give us attitude instead. One night she decided to burn all the food n soup. Another night she put so much ginger as big as your palm, and turn my soup into ginger water instead. Basically she just screw up everyday. When we ask her why she just say don't know.

Then one day during lunch, I told her 3 times, my hubby once that we have finished lunch and she can clear the table.she did not respond.  So I walk to kitchen and asked her "did u hear us?" She snapped at me and asked say wait lah! why I'm angry at her.

Wtf?
I said, what do u mean angry? I merely asked I if u heard us since we said it 4 times n u said nothing. We were quite pissed with her attitude.

That night, my hubby finally Agreed that she can't stay on. She is not appreciative of the second chance we gave her after she beg for her job back. I'm a little annoyed because now we have to pay her to go instead of at no cost if he had listen to me and let her resign.

We discussed and decide she should leave on 11th Jan. Just to make it easy for me to calculate the food allowance bit. Plus that means the latest she can stay in HK is till 25th Jan before we fly off.

On 28th night, we served her notice of termination. She don't look too surprise which means she prob had been planning for us to fire her. my hubby told her the last day is 11th and that means she has 2 weeks with us. She said ok. And I heard her starting to pack her stuff.

On 29th next morning, I woke at 7.30am and saw she was not home and no housework was done. The bitch left a note that she can't work as she wants to go agency to find new job. What the fuck. I'm still paying u n we did not give you permission to not work and go off.

My husband was pissed. She threw our plans for the day in disarray and luckily I had the local lady to cook lunch today. So I quickly vaccum n mop the floors and did the laundry. Luckily we had food for me to cook dinner too!

The bitch initially refuse to answer my call. I call her agent to tell her she better tell my maid to answer because I did not give permission. The helper quickly text back and ask me to give her time and I should be u set standing that she need to look for new employer. I feel like telling her fuck you. But instead I told her to come back by 2pm n I treat it as she take half day leave. By 2pm she text n said she can't come back. So I said fine. I treat it as whole day leave. 

Meanwhile my man n I decided she's leaving next day. No point keeping someone who will not work well. I called labour department n was told I cannot grant her leave but instead I can deduct her pay as no pay leave but compensation I still need to pay her the prorated annual leave. Strange but fine by me. 

That night she came back, my hubby told her to look at the compensation amount.she agreed n once she sign the agreement, we told her she has to
Leave next morning.

I know we can ask her to leave immediately but we are not that arseholic.

While she was away, I did everything in half the amount of time she takes. I cleaned the kitchen in an hour, don't know why she needs 3. I finished vaccum n mop, pack the beds n living rooms in 30mins, she takes 2 hours. I could clear at least 5 loads of laundry in a day, dry and fold in between the day. She usually can only do 2 loads if I leave her to her own devices. Useless moron. 

Today I could even finish all the ironing under an hour. Clear all laundry. Cook and look after baby and still have time to blog. She usually takes 2 hours ironing?

That's why she always seem to have a lot of things to do but it's just her being sooo disorganised n unable to multitask. She does not know how to plan her chores to work effectively. Her productivity rate is close to 10 percent. Average maid prob 40%. 

I'm just so glad she's gone and I can reclaim my space and now I can plan my day effectively n know what to do first m last. With her around, things never seem to move and my kitchen is always messy with plates everywhere. She cannot wash n cook at the same time. She can only do single task in the space of time. Usually I would wash as I cook n when I finish eating, I would put away all those dried washing n so I only have the dinner plates left. Unlike her, it's always a mountain load. 

I went up to my roof n notice she hadn't watered my plants prob the whole week. The soil was dry n leaves withered. Bitch. 

Moral of the story. 
My work efficiency... am equivalent to 2 maids at least.


25th Dec: merry Xmas!!!

It's a little late but Merry Xmas and happy new year!!! Baby had a good day toying with the Xmas tree. Mummy thinks he has that cheeky look that thinks he can get away with mischief....

He had 2 presents this year, one from Uncle Jamie from Oz and another from auntie Eileen from SG. Lucky boy I say!









Sunday, December 20, 2015

21dec: Sleep!

Winter has been so shiok. So nice to sleep in and baby is enjoying his sleep too!! Ever since I let daddy watch n care for him, both turning into late night owls n I had to put a stop to daddy turning my boy into late night baby!!! 

He used to sleep by 10pm or earlier but daddy been letting him zzz at 11.30pm!! I was pretty adamant that it's not right!!! Daddy did it so baby can sleep in later n he don't have to wake up early. I had to intervene when he said baby didn't want to sleep early but I saw baby rubbing eyes!! So I had to put baby to sleep by 9.30pm one night so that I could get him back into his old cycle. Of course that means daddy says he's tired coz baby is back to being up by 7 instead of 9am. 



This grobag by the way is awesome. Little one slept sooo well!! So comfy n the little one loves it! I bought one sleeveless to pair with grosuit and another grobag with quilted sleeves so that he can wear his thinner onsies inside

My boy has my sleeping genes. He can sleep 14-15 hours a day. Some babies his age sleeps far less. Not sure if it's a good or bad thing...

20 Dec: Feeding baby

This cooking for baby thingie sucks up so much time but I'm glad at least the little one seem to enjoy his food. His dad complains he doesn't even get such kingly treatment! Lol! 

There's a bloody long list of food I haven't got round to feeding him. 
The only things I have fed him by 8 months for the last 2 months

1. Avocado
2. COD fish
3. Pork
4. Chicken breast
5. Hairy gourd
6. Zucchini
7. Baby kale
8. Swede
9. Sweet potato ( not his fav)
10. Carrot
11. Pumpkin
12. Butternut squash
13. Ginger
14. Green pea
15. Apple
16. Pear
17. Mango
18. Banana
19. Rice for congee
20. Dried sardines
21. Longan
22. Yogurt
23. Baby Spinach 
24. Egg yolk
25. Oat cereal
26. Grapes ( not his fav)
27. Papaya ( not his fav) 

Things waiting to try when I find time
1. Nectarine/ peaches
2. Cheese / formage frais
3. Bread ( don't fancy the sugar in it)
4. Pasta / macaroni
5. Tomato
6. Broccoli
7. Black berries
8. Weetabix
9. Tofu
10. Beef
11. Winter melon
12. Garlic
13. Onion
14. Corriander
15. Rosemary
16. Nutmeg
17. Cinnamon
18. Persimmon
19. Rock melon

Was shopping in Citysuper the other day and was stopped by his HK grandmother. She kept staring at us when we bought the cod. Then she explained she wanted to know wat I was feeding my boy as she thought her grandson is too small for his age. I was surprised that she didn't seem to know what to feed n portion to feed the child, and she's doing the reading up instead of the mum? Seems like she's the primary care taker. She seemed surprised that I cook my porridge in meat stock instead of plain water. She seemed even more surprised that I added a variety of ingredients into one meal. 

She asked me what normally goes inside my baby's meal.  I told her for lunch and dinner normally 1 meat+ carrot+ squash+ avo+veggie with 1 fruit. Makes up to half rice bowl. Her eyes went wide saying that's a lot. My eyes went wide when she said she only has 2 ingredients and her grandson is already over 9-10months. Wait till she hears how much fruit I put in the morn yogurt... Lol. Even little one daddy is jealous, not to mention saying so much work since he's on baby duty this whole week while I'm Sick. 

The only problem I have is little one doesn't know how to feed himself yet. I have no idea how to progress him to finger food. He takes it, he squeezes n squash them but won't put in his mouth. He only takes food from spoon. That lazy bugger. He was drinking from cup when young but now he got lazy n refuse. When I feed him water via spoon, he will blow bubbles at the spoon n spit water out for fun. He won't do that to his food but water, he will keep playing with it and let them dribble out. Drives me nuts. 

And what's with eating and pooing?!! Everytime I start feeding him in his high hair, he will want to poo. Then I'm stuck between feeding him or change his nappy. Damnit. 

Meanwhile...still thinking about when to stop with breastmilk. Initial goal was 3 months, got moved to 6 months and now it's 9 months!! I think 12 months is too much. Ever since I embark on this breastmilk thingie, my body has gone shit and I keep falling sick. Recovery is slow as snail. I miss my rest hours. Then again, partial guilt arises if I decide to stop when I see him lapping up breast milk so heartily. Damnit. 

My gf told me she faces the same delimma previously when deciding when to quit. Yet after she quit, she said she felt so happy n wonder why she took
So long. Makes me wonder if I feel the same. My hubby is dying for me to
Quit. Only coz it frees up his time lol. The more time I have, the more time he has to Do his stuff. Of course he knows it too that baby prefers his breastmilk..  Sigh. 
Another month then see? 


Tuesday, December 15, 2015

15th Dec: The idiotic maid strikes again

Back to story of my idiotic maid where she wanted to leave and then ask for her job back.

I wanted to get rid of her but my hubby preferred to keep her on. To avoid a situation where we might end up fighting without a maid, obviously I have to give in since I don't want somewhere down the road he blame me for the decision to rid her should he be busy n stress over meals n baby again. 

So the stupid one gets to stay. She was happy of course and apologise n promise to work better. Blah blah blah. 

Although she definitely stop with her stupid black face, her other stupid habits remain

Plus she is stupid. 
When we were on holiday, she think we didn't know she went out and didn't come back till 10pm. We called the house from 7-10pm n the only time she answered was 10pm. 

When we came back, I could feel the floor is dusty but I kept quiet thinking maybe I was paranoid. Then baby in pristine white onsies started crawling and his whole clothes were black when I picked him up! I went to stupid maid room at 9.30pm n asked her when she moped the floor and she replied yesterday. I told her"go mop the floor now it's filthy. You look at baby clothes!! It's black!!!" She kept quiet and mop the floor plus the rooms. So obviously while we were away, she has been lazing. Of course she claimed she clean the house everyday.

Today, her attitude came back n I told her off. She slipped up saying that "the paint repair" was so strong smell so she cannot work as she don't want to put her health at risk. Firstly the smell isn't that strong because it's only a small wall section in study room (size of your backside) and secondly, there was no smell when we got back on Friday. If the smell was so strong, it would have lingered. Most of all, she contradict herself saying she cannot work with that smell, and yet she say she mop the floor (which was a lie since I can feel the layer of dust on my feet n see it on baby clothes)

My husband and I have decided, we can't trust her and he agree with me that we should start looking for new maid. 
Finally he agree that he can't trust her as well. I think what rub him off the wrong way was how she asked to go back Philippine while we were on holiday and expect us to give her extra days off to allow her a "week" back home. We told her we are departing on 8th m back on 12th so she can leave on 7th n back on 11th night. But she wanted to leave on 5th and expect me to give her time off (not leave). I said no flat out. She almost lost her job and still have cheek to demand for off days? Fuck off.

Well at least we can start looking while stupid one still works here, provided she don't throw another hissy fit. 

12 Dec: Back from trip

We are Back from holiday and I am now full blown sick. Cough, cold and weak. 

It was a first adventure with baby on plane. So much things to bring and prepare!!! Had to wake up extra early to prep his congee, steam his food to bring to plane and thankfully because he's still young, he was easy. Slept half the flight both ways, drank his milk and then was time to land:)  no cries, just a happy baby. Relief! Even the lady next to us complimented he was such a good baby. 




We took little one to Phuket for his first proper swim in the pool. Worried might be too cold for him but he seems alright though I took him out of the room pool once I saw him dribbling. (He had a cold 4 days before we took off) 

The main pool was warmer and so we decided to let him play there instead. Daddy bought all those flotation devices but he didn't like any of it. He rather be held. I think it's the lack of sense of security. He had a good time at least, better than sick mama. I was hit by mild food poisoning. Then runny tummy, then cough, cold sore throat. Basically just sick. 

But it was good to get away. 
At least little one had fun I think. 


We stayed in Andara resort. The room was by far the best we had stayed. It was huge and bed comfy. They even have baby bottle steriliser n bottle warmer. The kitchen was a proper full kitchen with huge fridge. The only let down I found was the food. It wasn't good and frankly that's how I ended up sick coz something I ate wasn't fresh. Suspect it's the grilled pork neck which tasted stale.









Wednesday, November 25, 2015

25 Nov: falling back to routine

Finally! My boy is well again and back to his good old self! 

That means no more clingy whiny boy that needs constant carrying to sleep. He is back to falling asleep on his own after I put him on the bed. All I need is to lay next to him and watch him slowly closing his eyes n succumb to Zzzzz monster. 



I don't know how other babies sleep at 8pm. I guess those mums must enjoy waking at 5 or 6am? I let my little one sleep at 10 or 10.30pm n wakes at 7.30 or 8am. Thank goodness he is back to sleeping through the night again without waking. 

His appetite been huge these days. Must be another growth spurt. He's chucking down like 220-200ml each session. Which is really a lot since his usual prior sickness was average 160ml saved for the morn 200ml when he first woke. We are wondering if it's not growth spurt, then he must be making up for lost fats. He has definitely lost weight after that horrid 3 weeks of sickness n small food intake. Now, he is chomping down his solids and his milk like a champ! 

He's keeping longer awake hours now. Averaging 10 waking hours a day. The best way was to go out n keep him distracted with new surroundings. Then he will be really exhausted when he gets back. Save me having to play with him for long hours.

Meanwhile, I am trying to ward away this annoying stuff nose n start of a cough. It has been bothering me for a while. It's not full blown but it's not gone either. Irritating. 

Another of my gf seem to be struggling a lot with new parenthood. Her boy can't seem to sleep well. Well, it's partly her own fault I think. 

When the baby was discharged, she didn't take my advice to swaddle the baby. I told her she had to Wrap his hands to prevent jerking motion. Just leave his legs free to move. I even recommended the really good swaddle me up bag for newborn. Instead of trusting me, she said her confinement lady tell her don't need to swaddle and she told me that Canada don't swaddle babies. I left it to her n her decision since its her baby. 

Yet few weeks later, she shared that her baby is not sleeping well, always restless n keep waking up coz he gets startled by his own hands jerking. After 3 weeks she decides oh she better swaddle. 

I told her to go get the sleep bag that will keep newborn snug n prevent jerking. 2 weeks later she complain baby still crying n not sleeping well. I ask what happen n the bag don't work? She said baby still jerking and active in sleep. I was surprised the bag didn't work since it worked so well with my boy n another excolleague whom I had given the bag to (her baby had the same jerking crying problem) 

After chatting a while, then I realise she didn't use the bag I recommend but put the baby in a sleeveless sleeping bag. 
*face palm* how will sleeveless bag help your hand jerking motion? Didn't I explain to u already?? 

I replied that sleeveless sleep bags are really only good for 3 months onwards because those are more for preventing them Kicking blankets off rather than for hands (strangely my boy likes his blanket. Lol) 

So after close to 1.5month, my gf n her hubby are still experimenting n mucking around instead of just heeding my advice to get the tried n tested product for their problem. She remarked "your baby is really so much easier to look after than mine"

I didn't tell her coz I don't wait around till the problem manifest into a sleep problem! I mean a sleepless baby has got to be a cranky one right?! 




Wednesday, November 18, 2015

18 Nov: a small respite


After 2 weeks of sheer fatigue, little one is finally better. The cough is finally almost gone. Thank god!!

These 2 weeks have been hell. Especially at night where he refuse to let us put him down and he will scream when we try to put him in bed. So imagine carrying him from 11pm- 5am. My husband had to help since boy will not let me carry him. Both of us are sick n my man cough is so severe that he needed 2 rounds of antibiotics. Lack of sleep is a terrible thing.

So when my boy finally allow me to carry him n sleep with me, allowing my man to sleep through the night, it was a relief n he def felt better. I got to sleep from 4am till 7am after baby settled down in bed proper. I fed him n started congee n ask my mil to watch the flame while I pump milk. Just as I'm done, baby fell asleep n we both slept for 2 hours. That felt good!!! 

Today little one is happy. Made his new special funny face. Totally cracked us up






18 Nov: decision...

Spoke to my man about maid's request to let her continue working. 

We thought about it and debate the pros and cons. My personal stance is to release her but my hubby is more reluctant because he said I won't be able to cope with an increasingly demanding boy. He raised the issue of cooking and buying groceries and cleaning up after cooking. He said he doesn't have bandwidth to do all that. Even if we hire part time at hk70 an hour, it's gonna be very ex. But most of all, he said having gone thru 2 weeks of hell with baby refusing to sleep at night n both of us sick, it is handy to keep her on hand till we can find someone better.

But of course he recognise n agreed with the fact that this maid has broken out trust n that she frustrates us n it's something worth factoring in. She will undeniably revert to her ownself once she cannot cope if there's a slight change of norm.

So my husband propose to keep her with last warning, that the next time she throw tantrum, there will be no Speeches or conversation. Out of the house she goes immediately. Also, we will lay down terms that if we decide to hire additional help, she will shut up n don't complain n just work along. If she's not happy she can leave. 

It's not ideal but well I guess I have to try it out. No choice since unlike sg where hawker centered aplenty, HK is tougher where I live in central. I don't want to be spending hk200 every meal to eat out. 

Sigh. 



Monday, November 16, 2015

16 Nov: someone asking for her job back...

I knew my maid so well. I was just telling my hubby last night that I think she will ask for her job back. Coz she has been going extra mile to do everything correctly. 

As expected, she ask me today if I want her to continue working here. 

I ask her but u are the one who throw your temper, say very stress and want to quit. U sure u want to stay? She say yes, she already work 5 months here already n her phone spoil. Hello your hp spoil my business? 

Anycase, I told her I need to discuss with my hubby. I think she realise that if we fire her she has zero hope of looking for new employer. 

What do u think? Keep or fire? 


16 Nov: say what? More sickness!??!

I really can't catch a break can I? 

Just when I thought my little boy was getting better after the mild scare of seeing mucous in his poo, he's down with fricking Roseola infantum! 

The other night, had to take him to hospital out patient coz he was crying from 12-4.30am. Couldn't tell what was wrong. 


Those GP are really no good. Prescribe something baby unfriendly for my little one. Took baby to see PD the next day as PD was concerned about his sudden high fever at 39 degree n mucous poo etc and called me. He wanted to be sure it wasn't something else (can't rem the name but something about swollen testicles) 

Today while my hubby was changing diapers, my mil saw the red rash on body. The problem with hubby being colour blind, it's risky coz he can't see red spots or red rash or cuts etc. Doesn't help that he's already not an observe t guy. Sigh. I worry sometimes I will miss out symptoms coz it's all on me to spot any physical surprises. 


Watsapp my PD n he called back to say not to worry. 

This explains a lot. Why baby has been fussy n irritable the past week. Explains the on n off fever. All those cough n cold were also part of Roseola infantum symptoms. I had a nagging suspicions it might be more than just simple cold coz it was running into 2nd week. Just didn't know wat was it. 

Well, hopefully the fact that baby wants to drink his milk again n laughing again means he's getting better!!! I certainly hope so coz no way I can survive with so little sleep n fighting cough n cold. 

Thank god I repeat, my mil is here. Even when she tired, she still carry little one to sleep. At almost 8kg, even I feel tired but my mil really soldier on. She will wash my bottles for me when I crash n help cook congee for baby when I'm stuck pumping. I am deeply grateful for my
Mil. Some people only know how to open mouth n pester u have kids but won't lift a finger to help. My mil while hoping we will change our minds never once pressured me n yet soooo helpful n caring to make sure I get to sleep. 

I was thanking her tonight while carrying baby. Hubby was heating up ginger tea. I jokingly said if mum wasn't here I will die. Or that my hubby n I will prob be fighting away. 

My mil immediately said "no! Cannot fight over baby! That's something u guys must not do. Anything talk it out calmly, be calm. Don't fight or shout. "

Both my husband n I kept quiet. My hubby was unusually quiet n made no comments. I don't shout. Esp when fighting I usually talk tersely but I don't like to shout. I am assuming mum knows n it's her son she's hinting to. 

Let's hope baby will get better soon. 
I dread to think teething will be horrid!